The Importance of Communication with Yourself

16/05/2026

The importance series will draw attention to simple constructs, which while seemingly basic, have their important purpose. The blog is not to tell you what you know; it is to get you thinking about whether or not these are things you are putting in place for yourself. 

It is foundational 

The foundation of self-love is self-awareness. We are taught from a young age that communication is important in school, home and the workplace, but the importance of self-communication is never highlighted. It is the beginning of understanding triggers, needs or wants before you have to communicate them externally. How often do we think about what our inner voice tells us about ourselves? How often do we consider how we are communicating that voice to others? 

Our body language is as powerful as our inner voice. If your inner voice is negative, we may avoid eye contact, be fidgety or hesitate to step forward. When you take time to check in with yourself, answers and questions arise. As a child it can be said you are told who you are, as an adult some life circumstances result in you wondering who and what you are.  How do you answer the question if you never communicate with yourself and does the world and those around you answer it for you?



The Benefits 

  • Recognition of emotions and emotional regulation: Bringing active thoughts to the forefront and talking through the anxiety, stress, or feelings will create an opportunity to calm the nervous system. 

  • Logical decision-making: Journaling is not about writing out every detail of the day for some. It may be about writing out what is occurring so it is easier to see and name the emotions, clear mental fog, and access logical resources to make more grounded decisions
  • Enhanced connection in shared understanding: When it is possible to recognise, understand, and work on oneself, it creates an opportunity to recognise the unresolved state in someone else and meet them where they are at because the same path has been walked. 

  • Greater self-esteem: Eliminating automatic negative self-criticism can create feelings of motivation, opportunity, and hope

  • The How

  • Try journaling and ask purposeful questions: Write down a current event in your life that is occurring right now and the stream of consciousness as a result. Recognise how it has made you feel, who was involved, what you thought of the interaction or issue. Over time, a pattern may emerge.
  • Do not end the journaling on a bad note: The truth is we can be going through a tough time, but it does not mean there is nothing good in our daily dealings. We carry the feeling from a movie with a bad ending or a heart-breaking song, so the same can be said about the end of a bad event journal entry. Reframe the experience logically as you end the purposeful question exploration: I am going through a tough time, but I have and/or I am grateful for, etc. I may have lost my job, and I know money will be tight for a while, but I am skilled in…
  • Practice Self-Compassion: Speak to yourself the way you would speak to someone you care about who was going through a tough time. You are your biggest motivator, and if you activate negative mode, where will the inner motivation come from? Someone can tell you how great you are as many times as they want, but can you accept it if you do not see that in yourself?
  • Practice Pausing: It's ok to step away, pause, feel, process then react.
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